Question: What comes after more, more, more?
It's morer, morer, & morer!
We live in a grand buffet of choices, opportunities, information and endless to-dos. While it’s great to have so much to do so we’re never bored, the flip side is it’s terribly easy to fall into the cycle of busyness, feeling overwhelmed, and not doing the things we really want to do.
- We have limited time.
- We have limited energy.
- We have limited will power.
- We have unlimited things to do.
Gua gua gua. No shit, sherlock!
If you’re struggling to keep your head above the water and finding time for the things and people you love, don’t fret.
Not to be confused with PPAP,
but yes, we love acronyms for easy learning!
4 steps to bring sanity back whenever overwhelm hits.
Filters are great! They give us clean air, drinkable tap water, nice cold brewed coffee! I love filters. In the same way we have filters in the household, we should install filters in our everyday lives too!
Identify what and who is important. Hint: somewhere in this equation, YOU should be the most important.
I suffered my mental meltdown many years ago not because I felt trapped, depressed or hated my life. In fact, I was “thriving”…. enjoying my work and life a little too much if anything! The reason that happened was because I didn’t practise self-care and self-love. I didn’t take care of myself. I was constantly doing and not being selective with how I spent my resources of time and energy.
Get clear on what and who to let into your life. Set sexy boundaries.
What do you eat when you’re constipated? PRUNES! Not glamorous, but OMG, I love my analogies. It drives home the point. *Giggles*
Let go of what isn’t important.
The world is full of opportunities but sometimes the best opportunity is to learn to filter out the most important meaningful ones. This way you can give 100% of your attention, nail them, before moving onto the next target.
Yes you can have it all, but the caveat is you cannot have it all at the same time.
Bring what matters in your life to the front of the queue. Do the right thing at the right time, rather than trying to do everything all the time.
Do what is right for right now.
Multi-tasking may sound glorious on the surface as you’re demonstrating your capability of spinning many plates at the same time. Sorry to bust your bubble, sweetie… but that’s a misnomer in reality.
You can't actually do more than one task at a time. Instead, we are switching tasks, and when done very quickly it gives the illusion that we are multi-tasking. Task-switching is a more accurate description of what’s happening.
The cost of task-switching is well-documented. Doing more than one task at a time, especially more than one complex task, punishes productivity. It reduces our effectiveness and results in mental fatigue. Micro mental blocks created by shifting between tasks can cost as much as 40 percent of your productive time. That works out to be 16 hours per week you can save by eliminating task-switching. No shit, sherlock (need more prunes)!
See a task from start to finish to enjoy a sense of completion. That sense of completion trumps a list of incomplete projects nagging and nibbling at your back of your head (which is usually a major cause of a sense of overwhelm).
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Outsource your worries.
You don’t have to figure everything out or do it all alone. Learn to build trust in others and being willing and able to ask for help. Outsource your worries. A problem shared is a problem halved.
If it’s not a HELL YES, it’s a HELL NO!
Raise your standards. Curate, curate, curate. Be selective on what you say yes to. Remember - every time you say yes to something, you’re saying no to something else. And likewise, every time you say no, you’re saying yes to something else by freeing up bandwidth and space.
“Best thing since Ma Ling luncheon meat!”
- Dan's Grandma
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